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Finding the Courage to Ask for Help: A Personal Growth Story

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For the longest time, I thought asking for help was admitting defeat. I wore my independence like a badge of honor, convinced that I could (and should) handle everything on my own. But the truth is, the more I tried to do it all, the more I realized how heavy that burden became. It wasn’t strength that was keeping me going—it was my pride.

 

In my personal growth journey, I’ve had to face the uncomfortable truth that asking for help was something I wasn’t great at. I had been burned before—disappointed by people I thought I could rely on and hurt deeply by those I trusted with my most vulnerable moments. These were the people I thought had my back, but they turned around and spoke negatively about me when I needed them most. Over time, I started to equate asking for help with opening myself up to disappointment and betrayal. So, I did what most of us would do—I stopped asking.

 

But here’s the thing—trying to carry everything on my own was exhausting, and it wasn’t sustainable. What I needed wasn’t more pride, it was more understanding of who I should be asking for help. The issue wasn’t that I was weak for needing help; it was that I wasn’t asking the right people. Finding a supportive group of people who genuinely want the best for you is hard, but once I started to remove the toxic individuals from my life, I found a sense of peace and relief I never knew was possible.

 

Learning to care for myself, love myself as I am, and accept that hard times will come and go has been a turning point for me. With this new mindset, I found others who truly care—people who protect me even at my lowest. Asking for help is not a weakness in any way. But I also learned that who you ask is crucial. Not everyone is trustworthy or dependable. Some people, sadly, are more interested in using your vulnerability against you. That’s why it’s so important to choose wisely.

 

If I’m being honest, my pride was one of the biggest obstacles I had to overcome. For so long, I believed that asking for help would make me look weak or incapable. But that pride left me stuck—stuck in toxic cycles, stuck in bad situations, and stuck with the belief that no one could help me.

 

Once I let go of that pride, I realized that asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, but of strength. It’s about recognizing that we all need support sometimes, and there’s nothing wrong with reaching out to others. The key is making sure you’re asking the right people—those who genuinely want to see you grow and succeed.

 

In the past, I’ve had people let me down in ways that cut deep. When I was vulnerable, some took advantage of that to make themselves feel superior. But not everyone is like that, and I had to remind myself of that. The people who are in my life now are the ones who have proven, time and again, that they care for me—unconditionally. These are the people I know I can turn to when I need help, and that’s an incredible feeling.

 

Trusting the right people has given me the strength to open up when I need support, knowing I won’t be judged or let down. Yes, asking for help is a risk, but choosing wisely who to ask makes all the difference.

 

Asking for help fosters connection. When we reach out, we give others an opportunity to be part of our growth. It builds deeper relationships, stronger bonds, and a sense of community that can be essential in both personal and professional development. Recognizing that we are not alone in our struggles—and that there are people who genuinely care about our well-being—can transform the way we approach challenges.

 

Remember, asking for help is not a weakness. It is a strength, a conscious decision to be vulnerable, and an opportunity for growth. And while some people may disappoint you, those who genuinely care about you will always be there to support you—even when you’re at your lowest. Choose wisely because the company you keep is just as important as the help you seek.

What I’ve learned is that self-love is at the heart of asking for help. When you care about yourself, you’re willing to seek support, admit that you can’t do it all, and trust that there are people who want to be there for you. It’s about choosing yourself over pride, over fear, and over toxic relationships that make you feel like you’re weak for needing help.

 

If you’re reading this and struggling to ask for help, I hope you know that you’re not alone. The right people are out there, and you deserve to be surrounded by those who lift you up, not tear you down. Don’t be afraid to seek them out, and don’t let past hurts prevent you from getting the support you need.

 

Have you found it hard to ask for help in the past? How did you learn to trust the right people?

 

See you in the next post!

 

Yours Truly,

Serina

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